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This week, on the Practicing with the Masters<\/em> podcast, my returning special guest is Barry Polansky. Barry is a clinical dentist, communicator and thought leader in dentistry and is masterful at the art of case presentation. He is a graduate of Queens College, class of 1969 and the University of Pennsylvania School of Dental Medicine, class of 1973. He then spent 2 years in the US Army Dental Corp at Fort Dix, NJ, entered private practice in 1975 and has been practicing in Cherry Hill, NJ ever since. He went to the Pankey Institute in 1990 and has been on the visiting faculty since 2004.<\/p>\n Barry is the author of the book\u00a0The Art of Examination<\/em> and has written over 100 articles for most of the dental journals. He is the founder of the newsletter \u201cPrivate Practice\u201d which has become a popular blog along with the TaoOfDentistry.com and his current blog is CasePresenter.com, where he previewed work for his new book, The Art of Case Presentation.<\/em> Barry has lectured to numerous groups across the world including The Dawson Alumni Meeting, The American Dental Association annual meeting and the Texas Dental Association.<\/p>\n Today, we discuss the art of listening and how vital this talent is for a dentist to have in order to be effective with patients. Barry explains why you need to learn how to be in the present moment with your patients, be relaxed and \u00a0improvise. In order to be successful in your communication with your patients, you need to be able to have no agenda and become comfortable with the term “creativity,” to use it in your practice, your life and your mindset. This episode is filled with advice from Barry that he himself has used in his own practice to become one of the most sought-after dentists, speakers, writers and mentors.<\/p>\n Welcome to Practicing with the Masters<\/em> for dentists with your host, Dr. Allison Watts. Allison believes that there are four pillars for a successful, fulfilling dental practice: clear leadership, sound business principles, well-developed communication skills, and clinical excellence. Allison enjoys helping dentists and teams excel in all of these areas. Each episode she brings you an inspiring conversation with another leading expert. If you desire to learn and grow and in the process take your practice to the next level, then this is the show for you. Now, here\u2019s your host, Dr. Allison Watts.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Welcome to Practicing with the Masters <\/em>podcast, I\u2019m your host, Allison Watts, and I\u2019m dedicated to bringing you masters in the field of dentistry, leadership, and practice management to help you have a more fulfilling and successful practice and life.<\/p>\n It\u2019s Dr. Polansky that\u2019s speaking and he is currently the owner of Niche \u2026 how do you say it Barry? Niche?<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Niche.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Niche Dental Studio with his son, Joshua Polansky. He\u2019s been married to Madeline, his wife of, you said it was 39 or 40 years now?<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 It will be 40 years in August.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 40 years.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 And we don\u2019t believe it.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 [Laughs] Bret and Joshua are his two sons. He loves health and fitness, reading, writing, and he\u2019s an avid practitioner of Bikram Yoga. The hobby that has consumed him and his wife for the last 15 years or more, actually, probably 17 or so years now, is breeding, raising, and showing boxers, the dog.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Dogs.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, the dogs.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Not Mike Tyson [laughs].<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 [Laughs] So I am thrilled that everybody is here. I am so happy that Barry agreed to speak tonight. We were thinking that Barry\u2019s got a new book out, we might talk a little bit about that or case presentation. We also talked a little bit about \u2026 what did we say we might talk about Barry? There was something else that we \u2026<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Blogging.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Blogging, yeah. I thought that was an interesting topic. Barry blogs, is really a consistent blogger, and I find that amazing. So, what do you want to start with, Barry?<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Well, you know, your webinars or teleseminars are concerned with transformational leadership.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yes.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 When I spoke last time, I made the point that one of the hallmarks of leadership, matter of fact, I think it\u2019s the most important thing a leader has to do is, is to be able to present. That word means so many different things, but basically it means to communicate. He\u2019s got to communicate ideas.<\/p>\n So when I wrote the book, The Art of the Examination <\/em>I kind of cut it short and I felt that that was more of a process that I use in my practice. Kind of like a system to bring patients through. From the new patient, all the way through the case presentation, but I never really got to write about the art of case presentation. So it was a natural follow up to write this second book, The Art of Case Presentation<\/em>.<\/p>\n In the writing of it, and I did so much reading, it took so long, because as you said, Allison, I do a lot of reading. I get lost, it\u2019s like a magical mystery tour for me. I go from book to book trying to figure out and to see if there\u2019s any connection. I read so much about presentation in general. When I first started out the book was going to be about a presentation process as well, a kind of system of how I do it in my practice. Then somewhere along the line I discovered more than anything else, is that, I\u2019m always presenting.<\/p>\n As a matter of fact, presentation never stops. It\u2019s so much part of leadership that it begins even before the patient is in the practice, all the way through until they either accept or deny it, whatever. But you\u2019re still presenting all the time. Actually the presentation that you\u2019re making is you. You\u2019re the presentation. All of these things started coming up in my mind during the writing of this book.<\/p>\n One of the chapters is called \u201cDoctor, you are the message.\u201d Everybody\u2019s looking for the key to presentation. How do you get that patient to say yes? I don\u2019t know if there is any one particular way to make a patient say yes. But I know there\u2019s a lot of marketing terms. There\u2019s ways to let people know, like, and trust you. I\u2019m sure everyone has heard about those three words, they’re big marketing terms. There is no formal presentation that could make somebody know, like, or trust you. That\u2019s part of leadership. You learn that it never stops, you\u2019re always presenting all the time.<\/p>\n Going into blogging for a second. I think blogging is a great, I think it\u2019s probably the most effective form of social media. I blog more consistently now, that was the word you used Allison, because consistency in blogging is important. For a dental practice, my blogs are not about my dental practice. My blogs are out there for the dental community. I do have a blog for my dental practice also.<\/p>\n But basically, we\u2019ve all heard the word content. Whatever it is we\u2019re trying to communicate can be put into this package called content. Then how we deliver that content, whether we do it orally or we do it through a blog, is another representation of some type of a presentation about you and your practice. Or you and whatever message you\u2019re trying to convey to your audience.<\/p>\n For example, I write a blog post and it has an idea or an insight that I\u2019m giving to the dental community. Then I throw it out there and I hope that that blog post creates a conversation. So writing becomes a conversation, just like my presentation verbally or orally to my patient is part of a conversation that I start and that the patient picks up on.<\/p>\n Through the conversation, a relationship is developed. Through the reading of the blog, a relationship is developed. When patients read your blog, or if they\u2019re directed to the blog, then they have a chance to develop a relationship with your practice. You see?<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 A lot of this came out for me in researching The<\/em> Art of Case Presentation<\/em>. There\u2019s so many books written on presentation. One really good book that I used was called Brain Rules<\/em> by John Medina. It\u2019s a pretty popular book. How I came to that was a lot of books on presentation, say by Jerry Wiseman who\u2019s an expert on presentation, and there\u2019s so many. They always made references to John Medina\u2019s book about brain rules. In that book he talks about how people interpret messages in their brain, the science behind it. In today\u2019s blog post, I actually, I eluded to that a little bit.<\/p>\n One of things I write about in the book, and one of things I talk about all the time, is that your presentation needs to be brief, simple, and clear. Because the human brain can\u2019t take all of that confusion, and complicated, and things that people don\u2019t understand, and they will shut down. I mentioned that in the blog post today. I am sure most dentists in their presenting of their cases throughout the years realize that patients will have that look in their eyes, that I call MEGO, M-E-G-O, mine eyes glaze over. When you see that, that means the patient is confused.<\/p>\n By the way, how many times does it happen to us when we\u2019re sitting in a lawyer\u2019s office, for example, and he\u2019s describing the contract or the will your about to sign and you don\u2019t understand a thing about it because it wasn\u2019t presented properly or it was written in legalese. You know, there\u2019s a big push in this country right now to simplify everything including a lot of those legal documents so people understand them. I think there\u2019s a website called InPlainEnglish.com and that\u2019s exactly the point. We\u2019ve got to communicate with are patients, or anybody, in plain English briefly, simply, and clearly. You know who gets this better than anybody else?<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Who?<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 The marketers. The people who own Porsche and the people who own Cadillac and Lexus dealers, they understand. They do something called neuromarketing. They go beyond the eye and they enter into the consumer\u2019s brain, and that\u2019s what neuromarketing is. That\u2019s what we have to learn in dentistry.<\/p>\n I don\u2019t knock this because I\u2019m a dentist and I\u2019ve been using photography for years, but I think that\u2019s the dummy default, to think that we can sell dentistry by using beautiful photography. I think it is an effective tool but I think too many dentists rely on it too much. I don\u2019t want to be misunderstood here to think that photography shouldn\u2019t be used. It definitely should be used and has a great place in dentistry but is shouldn\u2019t be used as a crutch. You see?<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Are you saying marketing like to the public or marketing when you\u2019re speaking to your patients?<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 To your patients.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Okay.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 To your patients. You know, we pull out our befores and afters and we assume that just because we show befores and afters and its beautiful dentistry that the patient is going to accept the dentistry. But there\u2019s so many other factors and so many other ways to build trust to get that yes that we are looking for besides just showing a before and after picture. The presentation is a lot more complex than just showing a before and after.<\/p>\n One of things is that when people look at before and after \u2026 you know what I liken it to? It\u2019s like telling somebody to quit smoking. They never do. Why is that? If you tell them that, \u201cWell, look what happens when you smoke, you get lung cancer.\u201d But they don\u2019t stop. Why is that? Because the answer is that they never get lung cancer. The brain sees that as the other gets lung [cancer].<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, somebody else gets it. It\u2019s a stranger. But if you could somehow show them that they will, they will, that they can see themselves get lung cancer, then they\u2019ll make a change. Then they\u2019ll accept what you\u2019re saying. You know who knew that? Charles Dickens knew that. He wrote a story about that called the Christmas Carol<\/em>. You remember that? You remember what visited Scrooge?<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yes.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 In his dream? The Ghost of Christmas Past, the Ghost of Christmas Present, and the Ghost of Christmas Yet to Come.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Mm-hmm.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 And he woke up the next day and he changed. And he changed not because he saw somebody else; he changed because he saw himself in the future. If we can do that somehow to show our patients what will happen to them in the future you\u2019ll get change. That\u2019s a big difference.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 When you said the thing about the lung cancer, a part of me, when you said someone else gets it but you need to make sure they understand that they will lung cancer, I thought, like, ew, that almost had a little feeling in me like, I don\u2019t want to use a fear tactic.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 No.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 You know, it has to be genuine, right? We\u2019re not talking about that of course but that was the thing that just kind of popped in for me, I just wanted to say it. You can address it if you want to [laughs]. If you think it is worthy of addressing.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Well, the question you\u2019re asking is how do you do that without making somebody feel bad. Well the answer to that, and the way I do it, is I do it through story. Because story affects the emotions. We use a lot of analogies, a lot of metaphors, and that\u2019s a skill in itself.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I was going to ask you, that\u2019s something that would be valuable to learn and how do you develop that?<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Okay, whoever was on the call at the beginning of the call, I mentioned the word called practice.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yes.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 You practice storytelling. So how do you practice storytelling? How do you practice? Storytelling is a creative act. The way you practice storytelling is you practice the other things that all dentists know they should be doing. You practice listening. The more you listen and the better you get at listening until it becomes almost automatic, then you don\u2019t have to think about listening. The benefit, or the bonus, to practicing listening is your creativity opens up. The analogies and the metaphors and the stories come to you because you\u2019ve listened. Am I making sense for you on that?<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Okay, so you\u2019re saying if you practice listening as almost like a practice, right? Like we talked about yoga. Then that skill, it opens up your creativity. If you practice listening, it opens up your creativity. Help me understand that.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Okay, so when you can turn a skill like listening or questioning or active listening into an automatic response, then your brain doesn\u2019t have to work in overtime thinking about what am I going to ask next. What am I going to ask next? All of sudden your brain can relax and all of these mundane activities, which include listening, can go on automatic pilot during that process because your brain is not working in overdrive. Your creativity opens up and you begin to visualize things like analogy and you begin to describe things in ways that patients understand better.<\/p>\n You stop describing things and using a jargon or showing pictures that confuse people, or showing X-rays that they\u2019ve never seen before. You can describe things in word pictures that they understand because you\u2019re free to understand them yourselves. In other words, before you can tell a story, you have to describe everything to yourself. In order to do that, you\u2019ve got to be free in your mind to be able to see it yourself.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Okay, so if you\u2019re thinking, then you\u2019re not going to be doing this.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Well, right, exactly.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 The mind is busy, but if your mind is \u2026 Yeah, okay, that makes sense.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I had a patient last week who came in from another practice. He was changing dentists and the condition of his mouth was pretty bad. He had a lot of hopeless teeth that had to come out, but he was really concerned. His main concern was fixing his upper six anterior teeth because they had visible caries. That was what he was concerned about. But the dentist he had come from was so adamant about taking out these hopeless teeth. Okay?<\/p>\n He knew those teeth had to come out but he didn\u2019t want to get them out first. He wanted to address his appearance first. Well not only did I do that, but as I was sitting listening to him, because I knew I was going to do that, I told him, I said, \u201cYou know, let\u2019s assume for a second that I was a fireman going into a burning building. The first thing I did was I would take a look at some teeth that I can save and some people I can save, and some people that, they had been consumed by the fire. Who would I save first? Where would I go first?\u201d<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, save the ones that can be saved.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Save the ones that can be saved. We\u2019ll come back, that\u2019s call triage. But I didn\u2019t use the word triage. I just described the building to him. But you can see the look in his eyes as I was describing the building. It was almost as if he were in the building himself. So we were in agreement right there that we were going to save the ones that could be saved, and we\u2019ll come back and pick up the other bodies later. You see?<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Mm-hmm.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Because I understood and listened to him and described his mouth to him as if it were a burning building. Now we have that metaphor, both of us, to talk about as he comes in all the time, as his building gets cleared out.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Cool. Yeah.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, but some dentists don\u2019t feel that they can grab those metaphors right away, that they can tell those stories right away. There was a time that I couldn\u2019t either but I can say right now they come to me more readily. They come to me because I\u2019m sitting very relaxed and listening to the patient. I am deeply involved with the patient, and you practice that. You practice listening. So when I say to a dentist, are you practicing dentistry or how do you practice dentistry?<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 [Laughs] You do it, you really aren\u2019t practicing like you said, you\u2019re doing it on patients in the moment. It\u2019s game time all the time.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 It\u2019s game time all the time. And you\u2019re not listening, and you\u2019re moving from one place to another but you never practice it. So when you go to yoga and they tell you to do the triangle pose posture, for those yoga practitioners on the call, you may not do it right one day but you might do it right the next day. Then you might go backwards and forwards, but it takes practice to learn these skills. Listening is a skill.<\/p>\n I go to so many meetings, I hear the same thing all the time. Well you really got to sit and listen to your patients but I never hear anybody say, well how do I do that? How do I develop that skill? The answer is practice. You see?<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah. Well I was thinking when you were saying that you practice listening, I was just imagining my little brain trying to, while the patient is talking, trying to figure out what analogy could I use? Or what story could I use? Or, you know, instead of really listening.<\/p>\n What you\u2019re saying, which I\u2019ve heard many times before, that when we work, work, work, work, work, and then we take a break and we go on a vacation or we rest or something, that\u2019s when all the creativity comes. It\u2019s when we\u2019re relaxed and when we\u2019re not trying, right?<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Let me ask you a question. When do you have your most creative thoughts?<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Honestly, either when I\u2019m exercising or I\u2019m out in nature.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Okay, but a lot of people say \u2026 and I agree with the exercising one. Okay? A lot of people say in the shower. People have a lot of creative thoughts while they\u2019re taking a shower. So I always wondered, why is that? When people take a shower in the morning, the number one, the survey said the number one answer of what they\u2019re thinking about is what they\u2019re going to do for that day. You see? The number two answer I won\u2019t mention on the phone call right now [laughs].<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 [Laughs]<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Anyway, shame on you.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 [Laughs] You started it.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Okay. Anyway, the point is, Thich Nhat Hanh, the Buddhist monk.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yes.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 He talks about a word call savoring, when you savor something. An example he gives, he talks about eating a raisin and savoring a raisin. But he also gives the example of taking a shower and taking the time to not think about anything and just savor the shower. When you do that, you don\u2019t think of anything in the shower, that\u2019s when your creativity stirs, because your mind isn\u2019t on anything. It\u2019s on just savoring. When that happens, that\u2019s when your creativity is at its best.<\/p>\n If you can take those moments when you\u2019re doing your examination, pre-clinical examination, and talking to the patients, and then just relax and everything is on automatic and there\u2019s nothing else to think about, that\u2019s when your creativity will be at its best.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, you\u2019re saying be present. It\u2019s part of it for sure, right?<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Be present and be relaxed.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 And be relaxed.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Be present and be relaxed. In the book, and when I speak, I always talk about the pre-clinical examination and I always tell people to use improvisation to do a pre-clinical examination. I think I spoke about that on the last call. One of the things about improvisation and the technique is to have no agenda. To have no agenda. I don\u2019t know, and I was as guilty as everybody else, you have to run a practice and you have to produce a certain amount of dentistry and we\u2019re all production oriented. So we have an agenda when we go in to meet a patient. But what I\u2019m suggesting is to have no agenda.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, I love that.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 That\u2019s a little bit counterintuitive.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Right.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 But you\u2019re going to be hard pressed to find a lot of dentists who will walk into a room with a new patient without an agenda [laughs].<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Well you know it\u2019s funny, we did a listening exercise with Mary Osborne and I remember thinking how hard it was, and we were just role playing. But it was role play with somebody that was a new patient and the question was, tell me about your health in general. I\u2019m the person asking the question and the other person answering.<\/p>\n It started to feel like a real life situation. I started getting stressed out. I started thinking about the time, and am I going to get all the legal stuff that I need in order to be, you know, am I going to have all the medical history that I need in order to have the appropriate documentation? And be covered legally if something happened? I mean, it was crazy. She was just asking us to ask that open-ended question and let the patient talk. What we found, of course, was that most of them don\u2019t go \u2026 The time takes care of itself and they actually probably covered more information than we found out when we had our printed form.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 And you\u2019ll be surprised where the conversation goes.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Oh, yeah, absolutely.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 That\u2019s the really interesting part. If you really want to have fun doing this, and I know Mary\u2019s exercise, I\u2019ve been doing it for years. It\u2019s a great exercise, it\u2019s a listening exercise. But those are the rules of improvisation. Where one person asks a question or begins a conversation and the other person, the rules say that you cannot negate what that person says. You must accept it. Whatever it is, it must be accepted. Then you ask another question, going back, and then the conversation takes off. You know who does this better than anybody is people like Drew Carey, if you watch that show.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Oh, yeah. I love that show.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Even better, go watch old Seinfeld reruns. The conversations that occur between George and Jerry are incredible because they\u2019re improvising throughout the whole show. That\u2019s how I learned improvisation. I was watching Seinfeld for a long time [laughs].<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Well I\u2019m amazed that you\u2019re aware that that\u2019s what they\u2019re doing. I was not aware that is what they were doing.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, that\u2019s a presentation in itself, watching those shows. Everything is a presentation. Even your commercials on television are a presentation. Advertisements are a presentation. They\u2019re getting a message across, somehow. When you start, when you begin to see that whatever is out there is content presented in a matter to get a message across, then you start to do what I call a meta-analysis. So I analyze exactly what is going on.<\/p>\n It\u2019s like watching a movie and instead of getting caught up in the story, watch how the screenwriter actually put it together. Watch the structure behind it. There\u2019s a word that I use in my book a lot, the word \u201cstructure.\u201d Your presentations should follow a structure. I\u2019m very big into, for people who read my book, The Art of the Examination<\/em>, that was really all about structure. This way we don\u2019t get lost, it\u2019s not chaotic; we know exactly where we are all the time. Does that make sense?<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Mm-hmm. When you were talking about the meta-analysis though, what I was imagining felt like you would almost expand back and look at the big picture, right?<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, you just, yeah.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 But for some reason when you talk about structure, it feels like it\u2019s not the big picture, but I think it is. When you talked about it last time I got it, like, oh, this is like the little minutia of what we\u2019re saying and what we\u2019re doing. This is just a framework.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Exactly.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 We need these pieces of the puzzle but they don\u2019t have to go exactly this way.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Mm-hmm.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Right?<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Even as a speaker and you put a presentation together to speak in front of a group of people, putting that presentation is similar to putting a presentation together for a single patient in your practice. It has to follow a structure. When you go to see dental presenters, you can always tell the good ones from the ones who didn\u2019t put the time in because you can see the structure. You can see the story unfold.<\/p>\n I have my favorite dentists who presents and I am in awe of them because I walk out of the room after listening to them and I say, \u201cYou know, they\u2019re great because they\u2019re empathetic.\u201d There\u2019s a word. You know a presenter or a leader who takes the time to make sure that his message is delivered briefly and clearly and simply, is really showing empathy. Now that\u2019s a good insight. Because don\u2019t we talk about empathy all the time? Empathy for our patients? And our audience, because they\u2019re our audience. If we take the time to design a presentation and deliver it in a matter that they get, then I don\u2019t think you can be more empathetic than that.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 You\u2019ve been on the opposite end of it, haven\u2019t you? We all have.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 [Laughs] Yes, where you\u2019re sitting in the audience and going, \u201cOh, God kill me now.\u201d<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Exactly.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 How long is this lecture? [Both laugh] Yeah, oh yeah.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Or, you\u2019ve gone into a computer store or a store to buy something that\u2019s a little bit beyond where you are intellectually and you\u2019re just praying for a salesman to lead you through this.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, like my husband and I went and looked at cars and I had a guy who was telling me \u2026 you know, my personality style is not one who wants to know all the details of how every little thing works and it just wore me out. I was just like, I don\u2019t even know what you\u2019re talking about. You know what I mean? He just lost me. So can you speak to that? Do you tailor it to particular patients or like personality styles and that kind of stuff?<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I used to do a lot of that. Right now, I\u2019m kind of presenting as if people know absolutely nothing about dentistry. I\u2019ll just play it by ear. If they want a little bit more, I can give a little bit more. I have this phrase I\u2019ve been using for years, somebody commented on my blog today, one of the posts I wrote about being above the line or below the line, and believe me, I love the Pankey Institute. And I loved everything that L.D. spoke about.<\/p>\n One of the things that always bugged me was this \u201cabove the line\u201d concept and \u201cbelow the line\u201d concept, because as dentists, as human beings, we tend to put people in a box. We say, \u201cWell, that patient is above the line, that patient is below the line.\u201d You know, we go through our practices like that but somewhere along the line, I realized that most of my practice the patients were neither above or below the line, they were all on the line. The thing that would get them above or below the line was me. I was the one. I was the leader. You see?<\/p>\n So a dentist commented to me today that he agreed with me and that he said, \u201cToo many dentists are bringing their patients below the line.\u201d They\u2019re bringing them down by not being able to educate them, motivate them, and teach them about better dentistry. I wrote back to him that I have this phrase that I\u2019ve been using for years and that is this: people are begging to be led. People are begging to be led. People want you to take them by the hand and take them to a better place. That\u2019s a belief I have.<\/p>\n When I walk into a store or a car dealership, like you say, I want, I pray, that that salesperson is a leader and can take me to a better place. I pray or else I\u2019m going to get confused. When you get confused you stop. You stop, you turn around, and you walk out. You get stymied. That is the importance of leadership. That\u2019s the importance of presentation and that\u2019s the importance in having empathy for your client, customer, patient, your audience [laughs].<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I would love for you to take this, I don\u2019t know if we have time, but I\u2019m curious, Barry, about two things. When I think of leadership, I think about leading yourself and then I think about leading others. In a dental practice, that would be your patients and your team. And then you can expound from there, your labs or whatever. But really specifically, you\u2019re leading yourself, you\u2019re leading your patients, and you\u2019re leading your team.<\/p>\n Can you say a little bit about leading the team and can you say a little bit, like over the years about \u2026 I feel like you\u2019re a person with good habits and self-discipline. If you\u2019re writing books, I can only imagine just the diligence day after day of that. So I am just curious about how you lead yourself and how you lead your team and what you see as points with that.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Well I\u2019m big fan of Peter Drucker and you can read, I think he wrote something like thirty-eight books. You can read Peter Drucker from here until tomorrow, but the one thing I got out of Peter Drucker is that all leadership comes down to one thing, self-development and self-management. I believe that, I believe that. If the dentist isn\u2019t willing to look at himself first and develop himself first, whatever it takes, then success is going to elude him. He\u2019s not going to be able to lead somebody else if he doesn\u2019t work on himself first. You know, I believe that you learn this lesson every time you get on an airplane. Don\u2019t you?<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I don\u2019t, but you do. I want you to tell me about it.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 You learn it when they say, \u201cWhen that oxygen drops.\u201d<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Oh, the oxygen mask, yes, yes.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 You know? Put it on yourself first because if you\u2019re not breathing you can\u2019t take care of anybody else.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Right.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 So I believe that self-development is number one. I wasn\u2019t always like that, I wasn\u2019t always like that. I had my issues in my life, everybody does. All saints were sinners, you\u2019ve heard that before? All saints, but that\u2019s for another call maybe, okay? [Laughs] But self-development is foremost number one and in every aspect physically, mentally, emotionally, in everything, in every way, if you can get \u2026 and I can go on and on and on about this, if you can get better, continuous, and never ending improvement.<\/p>\n On the last call we talked to Doc Kazen, the job of getting better in increments, slowly getting better. That\u2019s how I\u2019ve lived my life for the last, I\u2019d say about twenty-five years, but not before that. Not before that. But twenty-five years ago, I started on this journey to self-development. I can say right now that the philosophy that was taught at the Pankey Institute was right in line with that, was right in line with that. That\u2019s why I gravitated to the Pankey Institute. That\u2019s what I went down there for because behind all the dentistry and the occlusion and everything else was this whole philosophy of L.D. Pankey of improving yourself.<\/p>\n Remember for those people, was know yourself, know yourself first, self-development. Know your patient. When L.D. talked about know your patient, he was talking about know your audience, know the other, you know? So if you\u2019re a speaker, know your audience. The third part about that cross was know your work. He talked about the technical and the behavioral work.<\/p>\n And the last part is apply your knowledge, apply your knowledge. Develop the habits. That\u2019s the key to change right there. It\u2019s not so difficult they have to wow us, it\u2019s not as much discipline, I\u2019ll go back to that about practice again. It\u2019s not so much about discipline. Discipline is hard work but it\u2019s about doing it enough until it becomes a habit. Once it becomes a habit it\u2019s no longer work anymore. You see?<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Right.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Writing a book is a good example of that by the way, because you\u2019ve got to get into the habit of writing almost every single day. I know Debbie Bush is on the call tonight and she knows how difficult that can be. It\u2019s not hard to write as much as it\u2019s hard to sit down at that chair every night. These blog posts are a good example of that. I wasn\u2019t consistent when I started the blog, it was work. But now I\u2019m getting into this grove, it\u2019s becoming a habit. I wrote a blog post today and I left the office after I wrote it and I said to my wife, \u201cYou know, it only took me a half an hour to write that thing today. I must be getting good at this.\u201d You see what\u2019s happening?<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, it does. It takes time. Yeah.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 You see what happens after a while. You go through the discipline and then all of a sudden all of the little things that I used to worry about, they\u2019re not there anymore. So I just write. I create a system for myself, and half an hour. That\u2019s something that would have taken me an hour, an hour and a half. It may have even taken me two days to write because I wasn\u2019t sure about it. That\u2019s just, that\u2019s practicing anything, same thing.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Do you have to look for the ideas or are they just there?<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I take a lot of showers.<\/p>\n [Both laugh]<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I\u2019m not even going to say anything about that.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Are there any questions?<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Okay you guys.<\/p>\n Debbie:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 This is Debbie. One of things that came to my mind when Barry is talking about just being relaxed so creativity would open up and then a different way of saying something or telling a story would come to mind to help with the patient. And then you talk about a shower as time of creativity. One of the things I find helps with creativity with me is to just fiddle with something, is to just play with something, and not with intention. This can be a piece of artwork construction.<\/p>\n I\u2019m wondering if this could also happen for dentists when they sit down at their lab bench? Maybe. And I\u2019m thinking, Barry, maybe in terms of your son, he is so creative. I know it\u2019s because he\u2019s fiddling and he\u2019s doing, I mean at least I think this is true. He\u2019s practiced so much at certain eye-hand coordinations and movements and full usage that when he sits down to do these things, his mind becomes free to be creative and he has great creative motivation and response. Does this make sense, Barry?<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Absolutely, as a matter of fact, you\u2019ve heard the expression: child is the father to the man. Have you ever heard that expression?<\/p>\n Debbie:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yes.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 It was the title of a Blood, Sweat &Tears album thirty years ago, Child is the Father to the Man<\/em>. When Josh first started learning the laboratory industry in ceramics, I sent him out to Chicago. He worked with Olivier Tric in Chicago. Then he went out to UCLA to work with Ed Mclaren out there.<\/p>\n He learned the word practice. Where they are forced to get better through practice, they don\u2019t just \u2026 so that\u2019s what he did and I watched him practice. And even when he came and started his own laboratory, he would stay extra and work on projects just practicing copying teeth, copying teeth, waxing teeth. Then I said, \u201cIsn\u2019t it amazing we don\u2019t do that as dentists?\u201d<\/p>\n So I learned a lot from that and I watch him get lost in the work. Then he is more creative, he\u2019s more creative than I am. I know that, well maybe differently. But he\u2019s creative in the use of the camera, in photography, and things like that. Some of the things that he\u2019s done photographically are way beyond my imagination.<\/p>\n So yeah that all comes from freeing his mind and getting into the work at a practice level. But we don\u2019t do that as dentists. And we\u2019re not taught that in dental school either. You know, we\u2019re taught to get to the goal line as quick as we can.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, you\u2019re right, that we\u2019re not really taught that in dental school either.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Nope.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Because I was thinking that should be our place it seems like, to do that.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, dental education leaves a lot to be desired. I really have to say that.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I agree.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yep.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I didn\u2019t have a horrible experience like some people do but I just think it could be a lot better and a lot more uplifting [laughs].<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Well the whole idea with apprenticeship \u2026 dentists should be made to work as an apprentice for a dentist and watch him rather than just go into a practice and just start practicing. Doing it wrong and continuing to do it wrong. I\u2019m not only talking about the technical work in dentistry, I\u2019m talking about the soft skills because they are even more difficult. Without having a role model to look at, how do they learn that?<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 That\u2019s awesome. That\u2019s true.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah. I mean, in writing The Art of the Examination<\/em> and writing The Art of Case Presentation<\/em> I almost felt like a hypocrite. \u00a0Because as I\u2019m writing it, and I think what I wrote is valid and good, I\u2019m just wondering how many people can learn these things out of a book. I don\u2019t know if you can. They tell me you can. But I don\u2019t know if you can.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I think you can. I\u2019ve taken some things out of books and specifically things that are structural. You know, structure, like you\u2019re saying. I think you have to go back and, like I had to change my paperwork and you know put it into my practice in the way there was no way that I could forget it.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Well, but it\u2019s such practical stuff that I mean, I always use the expression you can\u2019t learn to ride a bike in a seminar.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Right.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 You know? You got to go out and ride the bike, and fall down. Someone\u2019s got to pick you up and someone\u2019s got to show you, give you the feedback.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Well that\u2019s true I went to a lot of courses too, to learn a lot of that stuff hands on.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 And then you go back and you practice and you may be doing it wrong.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Right.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Unless someone, you know, you did it right during the seminar but who\u2019s watching you now? You know?<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Wow, yeah.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Well that\u2019s where practice comes in. That\u2019s where practice comes in. We have a lot of tools today where we can use, between Skype and showing other people. That\u2019s something that Josh does all the time with other technicians, throughout the world, as a matter of fact. They\u2019re always Skyping and showing each other their work and criticizing each other\u2019s work. That\u2019s an amazing thing to me. I\u2019m almost jealous of that. Josh has a friend in Australia and one in Germany. These are world class technicians and they\u2019re constantly critiquing each other\u2019s work. That\u2019s amazing to me.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 That is amazing.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah.<\/p>\n Debbie:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 That goes back to, you can\u2019t practice in isolation.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Right, exactly, exactly.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Mark\u2019s on the line too. Mark Battiato are you there?<\/p>\n Mark:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I\u2019m taking my notes. I was just listening and I know you read this book already, Barry, because you are always ahead of me a little bit, just a little bit. I was reading Icarus Deception<\/em>, you know, the last Seth Godin book. You\u2019ve probably read that, right?<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, The<\/em> Icarus <\/em>\u2026<\/p>\n Mark:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, Icarus Deception<\/em>.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Right.<\/p>\n Mark:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 He was just talking \u2026 I don\u2019t know, did you read that?<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 My favorite character, Icarus, he flies too close to the sun. He burns his wax wing.<\/p>\n Mark:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Right, but the other part of it is that, they don\u2019t talk about, is that if you fly too low to the water you don\u2019t get enough lift from the air so you\u2019ll drown. It\u2019s like what you were just saying. If we\u2019re not going to practice and go into the self-development, then you can\u2019t get any lift.<\/p>\n I just like the way he presented the whole concept, that we\u2019re artists. When you own a business you have to look at yourself as an artist and we don\u2019t look at it that way. We look at it as we\u2019re a business owner. But an artist is constantly recreating, you know? It\u2019s a great book because it talks about, a lot of things in that book, about kind of where we are as a world and what we need to do to stay in a private care practice. I mean, he doesn\u2019t talk about private care, but really he does. Because he says if you want to not follow the masses, like you\u2019ve heard, when you follow the masses you follow the asses. You\u2019ve heard that before.<\/p>\n How do you stand in this difficult period where \u2026 this can be one of the greatest times in dentistry. You read that book, you really start to see, wow I can stay, I can thrive in dentistry and still make it a great profession. I\u2019m going to have to do things differently; I\u2019m going to have to do what you just said. Practice and get into self-development and look at other things, improve myself and stretch myself. But I like the book, because just what you said, one percent a day, just take a little bit every day. Just one little thing each day. He says, \u201cDo one thing you\u2019re scared of doing every day.\u201d I think you talked about it in the last call about that.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Seth Godin, I hope a lot of people are familiar with him, he\u2019s a great example of somebody who\u2019s promoting entrepreneurism throughout this country with so many books that he\u2019s written. He\u2019s the modern day Zig Ziglar. \u00a0Actually that was his hero, he talks about Zig a lot.<\/p>\n For years, even while I was a dentist, I was always confused about the word creativity. I was just confused about it. I thought creativity belonged in the hands of an artist or a writer. I didn\u2019t know what that meant from a practical standpoint. But what Godin is talking about is that we\u2019re all creative. Creativity belongs in our lives especially for a leader or an entrepreneur, which is what we are.<\/p>\n Mark:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, right.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 So we\u2019ve got to get comfortable with that word creativity. It\u2019s not just about sitting down and drawing a picture or writing a song. It\u2019s about running your life and it\u2019s about running your business, it\u2019s about creating a life for yourself.<\/p>\n Mark:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, we\u2019re all artists, even being creative in listening. Like you were talking about earlier, how can we be more creative in listening? What do I need to do as a person, as a dentist, as a human being, as a spouse, to be creative with my listening? Maybe I have to just look the person in the eye a little bit longer or put down my iPhone. You know what I mean? What do I need to do to be more creative?<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 One of my favorite authors is Atul Gawande are you familiar with him?<\/p>\n Mark:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I don\u2019t know if I am.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 He wrote a very popular book called The Checklist Manifesto<\/em>.<\/p>\n Mark:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Oh yeah, yep.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 A lot of people, it\u2019s running through dentistry right now, and it is a very good book. But he did write a book before that, which is great as well. It\u2019s called Better<\/em>. The whole basis behind that book, he is a surgeon, and he was concerned about making himself better. That\u2019s what generated The Checklist Manifesto<\/em>. The fact is that he always wanted to get better. That\u2019s a very good book as well. Gawande is a very good writer. But again, getting better, how can we do something better?<\/p>\n Mark:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 These blog posts, they run together, but I wrote a blog post this week about a kid who came in to my practice who was really, really bad periodontal disease and caries and we just had to get him cleaned up. So I sent him to the hygienist and he was in his second appointment and I walked by the room and I look in the room and I was curious to see what was going on.<\/p>\n I walked in and I said, \u201cTerrance, have you been flossing?\u201d And he says, \u201cOh, yeah, just what you said.\u201d I said, \u201cWell that\u2019s all well and good, Terrance, but why do you have all that blood all over you?\u201d He says, \u201cWhat do you mean?\u201d So I said, \u201cWell let me see you floss.\u201d So I said to my hygienist, \u201cCan we have some floss?\u201d And she\u2019s about to cut off the floss and I said, \u201cOh, no, no, give me the whole dispenser.\u201d I handed him the whole dispenser and he grabbed it and he took off about, I know you know the answer, he took off about three inches, right?<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Oh my gosh.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 So he was getting it wrong right from the beginning. He was getting it wrong right from the beginning. My role, in order to create him into a better patient and make him better, was to actually sit down and teach him all the nuances in flossing. I had to train him how to floss.<\/p>\n Mark:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 You had to bring up the ghost of Bob Barkley to him, Barry.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, right. Well the point is, how many hygienists, how many nurses give instructions to patients without sitting down and telling them exactly how to do that? Then coming back next week, because I have a reminder to go back into the room when he comes in next week. Here\u2019s a phrase I used with him and a phrase I use with everybody nowadays: I\u2019m going to check for mastery. I\u2019m going to make him a master flosser. But I can\u2019t make him into a master flosser unless I check for mastery. I have to check him.<\/p>\n Mark:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Or else he is not going to improve. Just like I won\u2019t improve at my yoga practice, or my writing, or my listening, or my questioning, or my storytelling, you see? You only become a master by slowly getting better every day. He has got to get better at flossing. I\u2019ve got to help him. My hygienist has got to help him. We\u2019ve got to sit and watch them do it. Because ultimately, he\u2019s going to save his own teeth. I\u2019m not going to save them for him. That\u2019s what oral hygiene instruction is all about. It\u2019s not showing somebody something once and then forgetting about it. But that\u2019s creative instruction. That\u2019s creative teaching.<\/p>\n Mark:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, and it takes energy. You have to be willing to give the energy. That\u2019s why when you talk about that book Better<\/em> \u2026 why don\u2019t people get better? Well it takes energy to get better and it takes energy to listen. It takes energy to improve. Unfortunately, many people don\u2019t. You\u2019ve got to hang around the people that want to, you know like these calls. I always leave just more excited.<\/p>\n And that thing about getting better, Deb and I were in with a practice the other day and these two doctors, one\u2019s seventy and the other is forty, and they\u2019re father\/son. The father still, at seventy, he listens like he\u2019s thirty. He\u2019s always looking to get better.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Is that in Birmingham, Alabama? We\u2019re you in Birmingham, Alabama?<\/p>\n Mark:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 No, no, no, but Deb, it was kind of interesting because Deb is always like \u2026 her motivation is she has a fear of not getting better. So she\u2019s always wanting to get better. I think that\u2019s kind of like, I have that too a little bit. I don\u2019t want to not get better. It\u2019s almost a fear to drive me to continue on. I guess some people, I don\u2019t think that fear is a bad thing. I think it can make you look deeper. I think that you sometimes get [speaking at same time] \u2026 yeah, go ahead.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, like I said. Everything you wanted to know about leadership, Peter Drucker said, \u201cIt\u2019s all about self-development.\u201d If you go back to The Road Less Traveled<\/em>, it\u2019s another book M. Scott Peck, he talked about, he gave one word also. His word was laziness, which is what you\u2019re saying. It takes energy. But M. Scott Peck he talked about being lazy. Then he also used another word, he used the word called gumption. A leader had to have gumption. Just saying the word gets me energized. Am I right?<\/p>\n Mark:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Well it\u2019s funny you said that word because that\u2019s the word that Godin says in his last book, you\u2019ve got to have grit.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Grit? Whoa, whoa, whoa, see Seth Godin he steals everything. I know where he steals that from, okay?<\/p>\n [All laugh]<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 He stole grit from the people over at the University of Pennsylvania, Martin Seligman\u2019s group, and Angela Duckworth, the positive psychologist, she wrote a whole paper on grit. That\u2019s exactly correct. Grit is a word that\u2019s used in positive psychology.<\/p>\n Mark:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, another great book is The Art of War<\/em> about resistance. Have you read that one?<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Sun Tzu.<\/p>\n Mark:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 It\u2019s The War of Art<\/em>, I think.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Oh, The War of Art<\/em>, Steven Pressfield.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, The War of Art<\/em>, yeah.<\/p>\n Mark:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, great book because that\u2019s what we\u2019re dealing with, the resistance in ourselves, you know? Of not trying to improve and we have to fight that and want to better ourselves.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, The War of Art<\/em>, that\u2019s Steven Pressfield. Actually, that book really helped me become a more disciplined writer. The one thing I remember about that book is, don\u2019t prepare, begin. Don\u2019t prepare, begin. You know? Or if you\u2019re falling, dive.<\/p>\n [All laugh]<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Some of my favorite quotes.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Well thank you guys all for being on. Barry, I really appreciate it. I\u2019m indebted to you and I always enjoy listening to you speak. You\u2019re a treasure.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Well, the show must go on.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yes. Absolutely.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 The show must go on.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Thank you for having gumption and grit tonight to come and do this for me. All of you who are here, obviously, we\u2019re preaching to the choir.<\/p>\n Mark:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Way to dive in. Way to dive in, buddy. That\u2019s it, I\u2019m diving.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 All right, goodnight.<\/p>\n Barry:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I\u2019m glad I had the opportunity.<\/p>\n Allison:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, thank you so much everybody, goodnight.<\/p>\n Mark:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Thanks, Allison.<\/p>\n Thanks for listening to Practicing with the Masters<\/em> for dentists, with your host, Dr. Allison Watts. For more about how Allison Watts and Transformational Practices can help you create a successful and fulfilling practice and life, visit transformationalpractices.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n <\/div> <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" This week, on the Practicing with the Masters podcast, my returning special guest is Barry Polansky. 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